What Happens in Your First Matchmaking Consultation

Dating app sessions were down 7% in 2025 compared to the previous year, according to Adjust's State of Dating Apps report, and a lot of that comes down to burnout, people are worn out on the apps and leaning toward calling a matchmaker instead, then stalling out because they don't know what happens once you book that first call. Nobody wants to walk into an hour with a stranger not knowing what they're signing up for, so let's talk about what happens in your first Matchmaking Consultation.

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The Consultation Itself

Your first consultation with us is a 60 minute working session with an experienced matchmaker. You'll talk through where you are right now in life, what's worked, what hasn't, and what you're looking for. You leave with straightforward feedback, recommendations specific to your situation, and suggestions on what the next step in your matchmaking journey should be. The fee is $500, waived in full if you move forward with matchmaking or coaching afterward, so it never turns into money spent twice.

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Why This Comes Before We Ever Start Matching You

Roy Baumeister's research on decision fatigue tells us that the quality of a person's choices drops the more decisions they've already made that day, and most people come to us already worn down from exactly that, weeks or months of swiping, sorting, and deciding whether a stranger's profile is worth a message. Barry Schwartz's work on the paradox of choice found something similar, people who have too many options end up less happy with whatever they land on, not more. A structured hour with someone whose only job in that moment is to listen to your situation and turn it into actionable next steps does the opposite of what an app does. It narrows things down instead of throwing more options at you.

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The Questions We Ask You

Your values and where your life is headed come up well before we get into looks or preferred height, because that tells us far more about who's going to realistically work for you long term. What does your week look like right now? What's changed in your life over the last few years that might be shifting what you want in a longterm partner? Where have past relationships gone wrong, and where have they gone right? None of this is a test you can fail. It's just us trying to understand the shape of your life well enough to search for someone who fits into it.

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What You Walk Away With

You'll leave the consultation with a clear read on where you stand, a recommendation on what kind of support fits your situation, whether that's a full matchmaking search, one of our coaching packages, or a profile polish if your apps just need sharper positioning, and clarity on whether working with us is the right next step for you at all. We'd rather recommend the package that actually fits, even if it's a smaller one than you walked in expecting. Our goal isn’t to try to convince you the go with the highest package, we are here to help you find your perfect match with honesty and integrity every step of the way.

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Getting the Most Out of Your Hour

• Come with a rough sense of your last few relationships, what worked and what didn't, even if it's messy or you haven't fully sorted it out yet.
• Bring your dating app profiles if you have them, even the ones you're embarrassed by. We've seen worse, and it helps us give you meaningful feedback instead of generic advice.
• Think about your next 3 to 5 years before the call, not because you need a perfect answer, but because that context shapes everything we recommend.
• Ask us anything. This is your hour as much as it is ours, and the questions you'd rather skip are usually the ones worth bringing up first.
  

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Ready to Get Your Hour on the Calendar?

If you're ready to stop guessing and start talking through it with someone who does this for a living, book your consultation here.
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FAQs

How long is the consultation and what does it cost?

It's a 60 minute session priced at $500, and that fee is waived completely if you move forward with matchmaking or one of our coaching packages afterward.

Do I need to have my dating profiles ready?

No, but it helps. If you're currently on any apps, showing us what's live gives our feedback something real to react to instead of staying theoretical.

Am I going to feel pushed into buying something expensive?

No. We'd rather recommend the package that fits your situation, even if that means telling you a smaller service makes more sense right now.

What if I don't know what I'm looking for yet?

That's normal, and it's part of what the consultation is for. A lot of the value in that hour comes from talking it through with someone whose job is to help you get clearer, not judge you for not having it figured out already.

Is the consultation only for people ready to hire a matchmaker?

No, plenty of people book a consultation just to get straightforward, professional feedback on their dating life, whether or not they move forward with a service afterward.

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